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Hey there

my names Ashley Flowers and this is my first blog .

little bit about me ,I’m 34 years old I live in Victoria Bc have a amazing husband and two little girls.

life is great, since I was 17 I’ve dealt with anxiety that comes and goes more comes then goes lol sometimes it is very draining and others doesn’t bother me at all but threw it all I love life to the fullest and try and enjoy ever second of it 😊

what I do for a living besides fight with my pre-teen lol . I work as a nursing assistant,private cleaner as well am in the mists of starting a society with my best friend wow I don’t know how I have time to sleep oh did I mention YouTube channel, Facebook page , Twitter account let’s just say I have big goals for my life and you must work hard to achieve them .

end goal is to have a enjoying healthy life with my family .hopefully threw all of social media and are society I will be able to help people help themselves

Ashley Flowers

Everyday me

 

 

Best part of being a parent is the right to act like a child

Some of my favourite memories are from when I was a child 👶

Living threw being a teenager young adult I could have never Imagined being a parent would be the most enjoyable part of life yes I New I’d love my kids and enjoy being with them .

But I swear watch Disney movies 🎥 eating junk food and snuggling is my most favourite thing todo it really takes all the stress away don’t get me wrong they are great at bringing the stress on too lol

I’m that mom that you see running around the park with my girls playing games in the pool , making sand castles 😊😎

Once you let go of what others think as a adult you will be able to let lose as a parent and the more fun you will have I swear

Ashley Flowers

Everyday Me

Giving in isn’t giving up

You hear it all the time be it from grandparents, your spouse or other parents

You give in to much , don’t give in if you do they will never learn or how about this goodie they will run all over you if you don’t put your foot down .

Well having two I have taken everything you could think of away in many different ways 😕😫 they just get to the point where they don’t care well your going crazy 😜 there twiddling there thumbs seeing what els you can come up with “right ”

Well here’s some different ways to handle it some tips from our trade .

1.give them choices for instance

You tell them I’ll give you 2 choices

– stay up and watch a movie and no movie tomorrow

– movie tomorrow and go to bed tonight with out one

Your choice

This one makes them feel like they have a little more control.🤗

2.tell them the more you listen the more you will get

If you listen all week Friday I’ll buy you a treat .

3.ill give you $5 on Monday but you have to be good all week to keep if your good I’ll take you out to spend it .

Bribery works !

Ashley Flowers

Everyday Me

Things parents should never say

I feel being a parent is a privilege my girls make me the happiest person 98% of the times cause there are those times they drive me crazy 😜

I don’t know about everything in life but I do know when I am enjoying life to it’s fullest is when I am with my family.

I always said growing up I didn’t want to be anything like my mother I think a lot of girls think this lol but to tell the truth there is a lot of me that comes from her and I’m ok with that ” now ” 😆

Ok but back to the subject matter things we should never tell are children .

1. I gave up so much for you

2. I gave up my dreams to raise my children

3.you know how much I sacrificed so you could have a good life

Ok so I hear parents say these things all the time ” like really ” for one thing having a child is a choice and if you chose to have said child that is the life you chose, if you feel you had to sacrifice something how are you gonna truly going to enjoy life , when you have babies your dreams now include your family .

This is just how my husband I feel on this subject are daughters are a blessing same as us meeting each other .

Ashley Flowers

Everyday Me

Sleep away stress

Hmm weird I’m writing this seeing as half the month I can’t sleep through the night 😴

But on the other hand I do believe that lack of sleep contributes a great deal to are stress level on a daily basis .

When it comes to my mental health if I lack sleep my anxiety is 10 fold then when I’m on a good sleep week .

Us living in 2018 everything is work hard play hard which is a great thing but we also need to know when to give are body’s and minds a break .

Over working + stress = break down not always but are body’s and brains are not made for the over load and seeing as phones can do almost everything for us these day if we do have a free minute we spend it with are eyes glued to the screen I myself have been guilty of this on more occasions then I can count but this means the only time we let are brains rest is when we sleep 😴.

So for me I practice yoga as well as try my best to meditate .i guess what I’m trying to get at with today’s story is we need to give more of are time to the silence and beauty of life as they say stop and smell the roses 🌹

Ashley Flowers

Everyday Me

You know your old when

I don’t know about you but I don’t think I’ve stayed awake later then 9pm in well I don’t remember when we’ll work but that doesn’t count that’s when I’m forced to keep my eyes open till I get home at 11:30 pm with out fail every time I take a evening shift around 7:30pm I’m asking myself wtf did I say yes again .

I think I go to sleep early in hopes that I get 6 hours of straight sleep before 6am 😴

Like why didn’t somebody tell me when I get over 30 I’m gonna gain 20lbs we’ll just because and my raging hormones aren’t gonna let me sleep or hey keep a spare set of cloths in the bathroom because with out fail half the month your gonna sweat so much in your sleep you could swim in your bed lol

Oh but on the nights I have a great sleep are 8 year old dog needs to go pee not once not twice but 3 times in one night and she doesn’t let up she will sit with her head on the side of the bed ” my side of the bed” and cry loud till you get up 😫😫😫

Then I wonder where the extra pounds are coming from did I mention I’m more hungry when I get up to take her pee then I am any other time during the day

Oh the joys of getting older lol

Have a great night guys

Ashley Reardon

Everyday Me

The happiest place on earth for real 😊(Disney land )

We recently took are first trip to Disneyland I say first cause there will be many more 😊

Let me just start by saying the atmosphere alone was breathtaking before you even cross the road to get to the walk way that leads to the park you start hearing beautiful music that makes you want to start skipping , as your walking up to the park your surrounded by happy family’s most dressed in Disney flare I caught on the next day

So all this happiness before you even walk in the park .

After getting in everything comes alive music all the staff are dressed delightfully.

Here are some tips from my family to yours for your next trip to Disneyland

– try the big pickles

– grab a amazingly tasty margarita in California Adventure park mmm

– bring snacks food is expensive

– if your going to the water light show at California Adventure it doesn’t start till around 9pm but go first thing the morning of the day you would like attend the show grab a fast past for the show there will be a colour on your ticket that will be what row you are in when the show starts the closer the better the show is breath taking.

– at 6:30pm every night they turn all the lights on in cars town that was fun to see

– California Adventures has more of the smaller ride for the little ones

– get the park an hour early to avoid the bigger lines everyone needs Togo through security check before going in as well if you have a back, purse , stroller ext. the lines are longer .

– oh they rent strollers there so you don’t need to bring your own

– downtown Disney is where all the shops are great place to start or end your day

– Disney is great at hiding line ups omg if you enter the back of the line think you can see the front of the line that might not be the case lol they hide the rest of the line in the building so if is say 70 mins it will be 70 mins

– use your magic morning pass to ride as many rides as possible it’s great cause lines are shorter

-stay at a hotel walking distance

– when you see a Disney character you would like to get a picture with if you see them standing still run to get in line up cause they get long fast . If you see them walking they are more likely then not there heading to a show and won’t stop

– there is a restaurant across the street from the park that is all you can eat it’s called (Captain kids)

There are a few tips hope they help and remember just to enjoy

Ashley Flowers

Everyday Me

Mom vent (always listening )

Ok parents today is something I’m calling mom vent 🙄

From the day my girls came into this world I have interacted with them , from chatting with them while breast feeding or having a full conversations with them sitting in the stroller

Just because all they speak is gibberish doesn’t mean there not listening or watching everything mommy and daddy are doing

Little ones are just like us when they speak they are hoping we are listening and will continue the conversation

Technology has taking over so much these past years it seems like we’re breeding are children to be zombies

Have you gone to a mall lately or been on a bus where everyone plus there children are on phones or tablets no one is interacting with each other , please do me a favour go take a look and let me know what you see 🧐

Have you ever seen the movie

Wall-E it’s a Disney animated movie where earth is no longer safe to live on and everyone is forced to live on a spaceship 🚀

This is how humans look after a couple years

Lol does this remind you of anything oh yes us besides we’re starting are kids early ….

Instead of throwing a phone in there face, play games talk with them fly a kite go find shells on the beach .

There is tons of time in the day for us parents to zone out and relax

Let’s try and keep engaged with are little ones so they grow to become

-explorers

-educators

-open minded individuals

Well that was my mom vent for the week 😕

Ashley Flowers

Everyday Me

Why so complicated

So I’ve been doing some deep research into my menstrual cycle seeing as for my anxiety I noticed a couple years ago that my anxiety gets a lot worse when it’s that time of the month I don’t sleep sound I have night sweats and vivid dreams and instead of being ok “well this is how it is “ I’m more like what can I do to change it 🧐

so this is what I’ve discovered first off I’m not the only one also anxiety is a lot more common in women “like really” why do we always get the s*** end of the stick lol , so here is a list of some things I read could help as well as tricks I use .

1. if you know you get more anxious at a certain time of month always remind your self that the reason you are having a harder time coping is because you are going to be or are on your period .

I write in a journal to remind myself , it really help me

2. Eat less sugar,caffeinated beverages as well try to avoid tobacco products at night

3. Make sure your body is receiving enough

– magnesium

– omega 3s ( fish oil )

– vitamin D , B12

– exercise

– read positive anxiety quotes on Pinterest

– always have a  supply of  anxiety medication if need be so you don’t snow ball as I call it I’m not big on medication but sometimes anxiety gets crazy and the more anxious you get the harder it is to cope .

well have a great night everyone

Ashley Flowers

Everyday Me

Mom fun

Who here has girls myself I have two ones 11 and the other 7 .

did you know that supposedly girls are born with raging hormones blowing out every hole  in there body lol well it’s true in my house hold there are myself my husband and are two daughters you know he tells me since he grew up in a house full of women and no men that nothing bugs him 🤔 I call bull lol

somtimes I want to run away and I should understand it most because I’m a woman right !

Ok so if your of the female sex you would have heard the myth that women that live in the same household tent to share the same menstral cycle and almost everyone in the world probably doesn’t believe it , Well It’s True

I looked it up  and the reasoning  behind it is that are body’s work just like animals when a lioness in a pride of lions goes into heat so do all the other females and this is simply nature’s way of protecting her from being signaled out by the males 😕  so even though humans don’t work that way  we are still mammals  and are  pheromones Work the same , funny thing is in are world are cycle warns men off lol

so the reason I bring this point up is because since having our daughters there has been 1 week every month where we’ll s*** hit the fan Im moody and half the time should just be locked in a room not aloud to speak to other humans lol

but the best part is both my daughters synce there moods to my “ time of the month “  they don’t have there menstrual cycle yet but that means nothing as long as I can remember my youngest can cry at the drop of a dime and is an emotional wreck during this week and well for the 11 year old that’s is constantly moody well it reaches a whole new level of bitchy.

thats enough on that topic lol tell me what you think below and would love to hear if anyone els experiences this or something like this

Ashley Flowers

Everyday Me